It seems as though my sister is actually going to divorce her husband. I talked to her and she feels strongly about this move. Right now she is staying at a relative’s house and they have room for her big dogs there also. Sis feels like she is invading relative’s house, but relative says that she is not and it is no problem at all.
My BIL treats her like she is stupid and like her opinion doesn’t matter to him, and he shows no compassion for her when she is ill, she says. He comes home drunk and calls her nasty names and throws stuff around. She doesn’t need that. She is a sweet person. He calls her selfish, and she is complete opposite of selfish.
She has lived the past 20 or so years catering to him, fixing him breakfast nearly every day, serving him coffee or drinks all the time, always doing the dishes, and she had a full-time job also. She would still cater to him even when he retired and she still was working! And he says she is selfish and thinks of only herself? She is finally thinking for herself now, for once, and she decided that he doesn’t love her the way that she deserves.
I talked to her today, and she seemed level headed. She is not acting irrational. He still wants to live in the travel trailer and travel around the
She doesn’t want to be without everything she has and be with him somewhere and have him decide to leave her there. I don’t know that he would do that, but she is afraid of something like that happening. And then she would be somewhere without family or friends to help her out.
She said one time they were walking up a hill and she was red in the face and out of breath and needed to take a break. Her heart was pounding and she didn’t feel right. So she sat on a rock and he threatened to leave her behind, instead of making sure that she was alright. It’s like he thinks she feels bad or gets sick on purpose.
She doesn’t feel the love from him anymore.
2 comments:
The most importing thing is that you support your sister and that you stay by her side no matter what she decieds. Everyone deserves to be happy you know!
I'm so sorry that your sister is so unhappy right now. I do have to say though that you need to tell your sister to get a lawyer immediately. She needs to start proceedings as soon as possible or she will end up with nothing. Even though she may think she doesn't need anything from her husband right now she will need it when it comes time for her to get how own place and the money from the sale of the house will help her with that. Just because her husband has turned out to be a big jerk doesn't mean she has to suffer for it for the rest of her life. I hope she finds some happiness with the decision she has made and I will keep her in my thoughts and prayers.
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